intimacy

True Intimacy

True intimacy is not the by-product of an orgasm. It will not be found in the organ between your legs. Don’t expect a connection because you share wetness. Sex is a biological urge. Every organism on the planet practices some form of it.
Intimacy is a conscious act. It is the gift from The Creator that takes sex from primal to sacred. It is the ability to feel emotions for another. It is your heart yearning to be connected to another. It is your spirit reaching out to the energy of that special one. You might be able to fake it for the sake of an orgasm but it will never last. It will be a fleeting taste of what you truly desire. You will be satisfied for a moment but it will not last. You will greedily take from others thinking that is what will make you happy. When in reality you will never find joy until your heart feels the connection. You will merely be a succubus of love, taking and taking but never truly giving.

The Duality of Love

Life is a duality; black and white, light and dark, yin and yang. It is within this duality that you will find your love.
So stop pining for someone that gets you and long for someone that challenges you. That opens your mind to new ideas. Whose experiences make you want to explore new horizons. That makes you think as much as you feel.
So find your mirror, your reflection, together you can create a world.

Uncomfortable Lives

Too many of us are living uncomfortably comfortable lives. In relationships that do not make us happy or even worse do not grow for the sake of being in a relationship. Professing wanting to be alone, not wanting anyone in our lives; while secretly yearning for a partner.
We justify the lives we lead out of loneliness and fear. We put on a happy face to mask the sadness. We are whirling dervishes of activity to avoid what is waiting at home.
Are you afraid to look in the mirror of your life because of what you will see?

Kissing 101

♡If when kissing your lover feels like he has just washed his face. Perhaps you need to learn the subtlety of a good kiss.♡

Lovely One the first touch you share with your lover is special. The first hug is bliss. The first kiss is magical, passionate, a prelude to so much more. That is unless it is a sloppy mess. A bath, a tongue washing that leaves your lover wiping his face. So let’s discuss the art of kissing. It is an art that can be exquisite and delicate but filled with passion like a Faberge egg or about as artistic as dogs playing poker on velvet.

A few subtle nuances to ponder about kissing:

The approach – To be honest I let a man approach our first kiss or at least let him believe he has LOL. Remember man is a hunter so let him hunt. Be a little coy, let him take the lead. Work your magic and he will make the move.

The beginning – Lips touch. Now girlie I don’t care how much you have pictured him naked and all the wanton acts you will do to his body, be soft. Close your eyes, touch his lips softly and let him feel your sweetness. Allow him to control the kiss at first, then press into him gently while releasing the first contact. Kiss him back slowly, lick his lips gently, suck his bottom lip let him feel your passion. A great kiss is not one kiss but a series of kisses. Each one more intense than the last.

Opening your mouth – When kissing becomes heated, mouths will open, tongue will play and this is what will make or break the kiss. Your tongue should be light, quick, darting into his mouth without being too much. Twirl your tongue around his (for a lesson on tongue twirling read https://theglamrules.wordpress.com/2010/07/29/the-glam-rules-food-play-grapes/) , suck his tongue when it is in your mouth. Surprise him with a flick on the top of his mouth and take his breath away.

***Warning*** Glam Girl during your throes of passion, there is a point where your mouth can be too wide open. Learn your mouth and how wide is too wide. Because once you reach that point the kiss will turn from an erotic moment to a sloppy saliva all over the face moment quicker than you can blink your eye. Nothing can kill a mood then separating from a kiss to wipe drool from around your mouth. UGH!

The embrace – Usually a kiss may begin with lips just touching and as the kiss deepens. What the heck to do with your arms? Why put them around your lover silly girl but placement Is key. I am of the one high, one low camp. This is exactly what it sounds like. One hand is around his neck. I naturally stroke his skin; play with the hair on the back of his head. This is not about moving his head into position but my hand touching him as softly as my lips and tongue. My lower hand will either be around his waist or if the kiss is taking me over the edge will be sneaking under his shirt to touch his skin. It connects you even more, becomes electric, a current of heat that runs through you both. I feel…*fans self* Wow the post was getting away from me. You get where I am going.

A kiss is not just about flesh meeting flesh. It is a prelude to passion not just the first time but every time. So lean in and enjoy those hot, sexy lips today and every day.
Live Glamourously,

The Harlot